Author: Dave Burchett

Being a celebrity in this culture is brutal. Great coaches will often say they will break down an athlete to build them back up. The idea is to make them better. Our culture has a little twist on how we treat the famous. We build them up in order to break them and tear them down. The idea is to make us feel better.

Celebrity is hard on families and the children of the famous. I have often told my kids that I love them so much that I took the burden of mediocrity on my career just for them. They didn’t believe it either.

Yesterday Barak Obama saw the cycle of celebrity run over him, hit the brakes and back over him again. Obama got caught repeating almost verbatim the language of an earlier speech delivered by a friend of his, Massachusetts Gov. Deval Patrick. His response yesterday was a bit defensive and suggested that his opponent also “borrowed” phrases from him. So?

To be fair Obama did acknowledge that he should have credited his friend but his overall tone was dismissive. Another celebrity had to address accusations yesterday. New York Yankee pitcher Andy Pettitte held a one hour press conference to address his use of a performance enhancing drug. His tone was contrite and repentant. The Associated Press reported the event.

“I felt like I need to come out, be forward with this,” Pettitte said. “Whatever circumstances or repercussions come with it, I’ll take and I’ll take like a man and I’ll try to do my job.”

Other athletes have ducked tough questions about allegations of drug use, using evasions and nonspecific replies. Pettitte admitted his mistakes and several times patiently asked reporters, “Did I answer your question?”

“I want to apologize to the New York Yankees’ and to the Houston Astros’ organizations and to their fans and to all my teammates and to all of baseball fans for the embarrassment I have caused them,” he said. “I also want to tell anyone that is an Andy Pettitte fan I am sorry, especially any kids that might look up to me.”

“I know that once I have this press conference and talk to everybody about this and share everything with you, I think the truth will set you free,” Pettitte said. “I think I’m going to be able to sleep a lot better at night once all this gets by.”

The point of most of my humble ramblings is not to throw others under the bus but to see how these situations apply to me and other followers of Jesus. I am not saying that Obama is not telling the truth. Don’t get sidetracked. The point of this article is the power of confession and repentance.

The application of this story for me is personal. I have an obligation as a follower of Christ to be accurate and truthful in all of my writing and speaking. That doesn’t mean that there will never be mistakes but they should be dealt with quickly and called by their name.  I totally agree with Mark Twain who said if you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.

And isn’t that a peaceful place to be? No frantic cover ups or wondering what you told him or her. Stretching the truth a bit to embellish a resume or a story is so easy. Borrowing someone else’s words may not seem like a big deal. Who will find out? Chances are that someone will. Stupid Google!!!

Anytime I get found out I default to hiddenness and denial. I want to protect my image. The reality is you could protect my image with a Chihuahua. I want to look good to others and I maddeningly forget that it only matters how I look to my God. King David was man who had to squirm uncomfortably in front of the Lord God after his sad detour with Bathsheba. That was the ultimate in tragic cover-ups and lies. But David was also described as a man after God’s own heart. He wrote these words in Psalm 15.

Who may worship in your sanctuary, LORD?
       Who may enter your presence on your holy hill?
        Those who lead blameless lives
       and do what is right,
       speaking the truth from sincere hearts.

       Those who refuse to slander others
       or harm their neighbors
       or speak evil of their friends.

       Those who despise persistent sinners,
       and honor the faithful followers of the LORD
       and keep their promises even when it hurts…

           Such people will stand firm forever.  (NLT)

I realize that it is only the grace of God that allows me to accept my mistakes, own them, repent and repair whatever damage I may have caused. It is only the grace of God that forgives and restores me when I do stumble. Paul wrote that all of us have the ability to fall flat at any given moment. Because of that we should be full of grace when others stumble.

If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day’s out. Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ’s law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived.  (Gal 6, The Message)

Don’t be deceived. We have all been there. We will undoubtedly be there again. Jesus said this to His disciples who had claimed to believe in Him.

“If you stick with this, living out what I tell you, you are my disciples for sure. Then you will experience for yourselves the truth, and the truth will free you.”  (John 8 – The Message)

Just words? Nope. Absolute truth.

The morning stroll with dog friend Hannah was delightful. The sun was shining and the air was brisk. Hannah found hundreds of p-mail messages to sniff in her version of the world wide web. On the iPod I dialed up the series I am currently devouring on the book of Romans. The series is called the TrueFaced Grace Series and it is by the same knuckleheads that have been rocking my world with the book TrueFaced. I wrote about the book in a recent post called the Santa Clause is Comin’ to Town Theology. Today’s passage was from Romans 5. I am placing my marginal reputation on the recommendation that you check out this book and/or CD series.

What hit me on the stroll today was how I seem to ration grace in my life as if it is in short supply. I picture myself like those old movies where the guys are stuck in the desert with one canteen of water left.

They only allow a sip of water to be consumed. Just enough to survive. I think I have viewed grace like that at times. Since I don’t really deserve this gift I must take just a little. The truth is just the opposite. I didn’t deserve grace but God chose to give the gift. Why would God give me a gift and then expect me not to use it freely?

One of my favorite shows is The Office. A recent episode featured bumbling boss Michael deciding that websites and technology were not the way to maintain clients. So Michael decided to win back lost clients with good old-fashioned gift baskets. Along with overbearing compatriate Dwight, they set out to give the baskets to former clients to lure their business back with an unexpected gift. The baskets were delivered but not a single client was convinced to return because of the gift. Michael and Dwight began to get angry because these ungrateful clients did not appreciate the “gift” and resume business with them. So they went to take back their gift because the performance of the recipients was not good enough to merit keeping the gift. Michael even got angry because part of his “gift” had been consumed.

Sadly, that is how I have viewed God’s grace. I received the gift of grace but I still expected that it might be pulled back if I didn’t measure up. I was like the old rock song lyrics…I fought the law and the law won. But I did not understand God’s purpose for the law. The law was put in place to make me realize that I desperately need the gift basket of grace. And God’s Word is clear that I get to keep it. Paul said words to that effect in Romans.

God’s law was given so that all people could see how sinful they were. But as people sinned more and more, God’s wonderful grace became more abundant. So just as sin ruled over all people and brought them to death, now God’s wonderful grace rules instead, giving us right standing with God and resulting in eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.  (Romans 5, NLT)

Here is one more amazing thing about amazing grace. When I sin God not only doesn’t take back the gift basket, instead against all common sense the gift basket gets larger and more extravagant! The King James Version (Good News for 17^th Century Man) has a great translation.

But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound

God doesn’t pull back His grace when His children sin. He pours grace out in a volume sufficient to overwhelm that sin in a tsunami of love. I sit there spiritually parched and hoping to find a drop or two left in the canteen. All the while God is pointing to a fire hydrant that is gushing so much grace that it will knock me over. That is what Paul is saying. Well, he didn’t have The Office or fire hyrdants to reference but he did the best he could.  I have known this truth from Romans for a long time. Now I am learning to trust that truth. What an amazing difference that makes when it comes to amazing grace.

This week marked a couple of rites of spring. The reporting of pitchers and catchers to spring training and the arrival of the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue. For me one is a “right” of spring and the other is becoming a “wrong”. I was on the road when the swimsuit issue arrived at my home. The lovely Mrs.Burchett led me into a marital minefield with this simple statement.

“Your swimsuit issue arrived today.” She waited.

Work brain, work! Must step carefully. Following the lead of Nehemiah I “prayed to the God of heaven, and I answered”. 

My response was simple.

“Throw it away.”

Joni thought she had (to quote Roger Clemens) “misheard”.

“What?”

“Throw it away. I don’t need to see that.”

I think I surprised the Missus. This has been a process for me. I have gone over the years from eagerly anticipating the SI issue to guiltily perusing it to quickly flipping through the magazine and then tossing it. This year I never even saw the issue. Next year I plan to make Al Gore happy by opting out of the swimsuit issue and not forcing a tree to die for such a meaningless cause. Why the change? Cynics will say that I am just getting old. I hope it is a little more than that.

Those unfortunate enough to know me well would hardly describe me as an uptight prude. I am a television sports director so I am all too well aware of “progressive” attitudes toward sexual issues. I am never surprised by inappropriate comments or images in my work world. Today’s thoughts are addressed to my fellow followers of Jesus. I have recently been focusing on my identity in Christ. I believe that my very spiritual DNA was rewritten when I trusted Jesus for my salvation. With that decision I changed. My behavior needs to reflect that change. Paul addressed these words to the church at Ephesus.

Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people. Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God. For a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.  (Ephesians 5, NLT)

Several years ago my reaction would have been something like this. “Come on, it is just a bunch of skimpy swimsuits. Lighten up.” Alcoholics cannot sometimes have a drink. They must avoid it because they have a drinking problem. Most men have a lust problem. Can we sometimes indulge sexy images and be spiritually healthy? For me the answer is clear. Lust is mostly visual. Lustful images are almost impossible to delete from the mental hard drive. Images can lead to fantasy that can lead to really bad decisions. Paul had a simple solution. Run.

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. (I Corinthians 6, NLT)

Many years ago I was a regular reader of a men’s magazine famous for foldouts so I am not speaking out of “self-righteous” ignorance. I know why men read such magazines. Incredibly, it is not for the articles! Any man who tries to rationalize that is disingenous at best and a liar at worst. Christian men should have no part of such magazines or websites. I am stunned by men who make threatening comments to young men that come to date their daughters and then go out and ogle and lust after the daughters of others. In New Man Magazine author Matthew Paul Turner writes that “pornography alters your view of humanity by objectifying people. And, it’s almost impossible for a porn habit “not to affect the relationships you hold most dear.”

That is truth. You can believe it now or find out, to your dismay, later.

I work in a secular and testosterone driven world. There may be a small percentage of men who can view these types of magazines or websites and not lust. I have not met any of them yet. If you are that man would you join me for lunch (and bring along a lie detector)?

This Valentine’s Day is approaching the two year annivesary of D-Day (that is Diagnosis Day for cancer patients). I will gaze at my bride across the table tonight and see the same beautiful woman that I saw two years ago. The sparkle is back in her eyes, the hair has returned and Joni looks wonderful. Tonight I will treasure the moment. But I remember a lesson from the cancer journey. Beauty is so much more than the standards our shallow society sets forth. Here is a piece I wrote during our breast cancer trial.

One of my smart aleck remarks that I use periodically is that “I am not burdened by that whole maturity thing.” There are many times when I go about demonstrating that in real life. But the unwelcome intrusion of “life” into my happy little routine has caused me to evaluate a lot of things. God is teaching and revealing a lot of things to me during our cancer journey.

   1. I am clearly a work in progress as a follower of Jesus.
   2. He has done a lot of work over the years that I was not aware of until this cancer trial came along.

Last night I had the weird privilege of helping clip off the rest of my bride’s hair that was falling out from the chemotherapy. As I reflected on that moment later I realized that nearly everything I knew about beauty when I was 25 years old was wrong. Like most men I looked for appearance first and then tried to find some good qualities. Joni was a stunningly beautiful woman when I fell in love with her over thirty years ago.  I have often said that I married my trophy wife first and got it over with. I also joke that I married her to deepen my gene pool. And she has done that admirably. One of the ironies of this cancer journey is remembering how much I loved Joni’s long hair in the early years of our relationship. In fact I got upset when she cut it a few years into our marriage without discussing it with me. Her hair was a real part of her beauty in my stunted male view of what beauty in a woman means.

To be completely honest I wondered how I would react when the chemo therapy had its inevitable effect and she would be bald. Oh, I knew I would say the right things. I am not that stupid. But how would I react inside? Would it matter more than I cared to admit? And that is when I realized how much God has been working over the years. He has been retooling my thinking and my heart. Patiently. Quietly. Lovingly.

Joni’s hair began to give up while I was on a recent trip. She decided to get the buzz cut while I was gone (again without discussion). So I walked in the door and she, in typical Joni fashion asked, “Want to see my head?” When I did I realized what God has been doing over the years to a shallow and selfish guy. He has been changing me and what I perceive to be beautiful. Because the truth is that Joni is as beautiful to me today as she was with that long, shining hair thirty years ago. That is because I am learning what beauty in a woman really looks like.

Some days are better than others. I am grateful for the days when the sparkle returns to her beautiful blue eyes. Those eyes are the windows to a soul that has more depth than I could ever achieve. She is remarkable. She is my hero. Her faith inspires me. Her smile still lights up the room. I treasure each moment that I can make her laugh. The sound of her laughing is like a symphony to me. I have learned that beauty is so much more than what the world and testosterone ridden young men (or, sadly, many older men) think it is. Beauty is a package. One part physical to be sure. But beauty in the covenant of marriage is also emotional and spiritual.  When I fell in love with Joni I just thought I was marrying a foxy lady. I was really too stupid to know I was marrying a gift from God. The classic description of a Godly woman from Proverbs 31 fits her pretty well.

Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life… 

She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs with no fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule when she gives instructions. She carefully watches all that goes on in her household and does not have to bear the consequences of laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all! Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

I married an amazing women. Right now she happens to be bald…and so very beautiful.

Today Joni looks very much like she did B.C. (before cancer). But I pray I will never forget that her beauty is so much more than I once thought.

In our last episode…

A recent post about whether Christians should sit out or perhaps cast a protest vote in this year’s election has generated some spirited response. Let’s hear from you along with some unsolicited comments (as always) from yours truly.

Our first comments come from Russ who tried a crazy idea. He decided to go to God’s Word, spend time with God and pray. If too many follow Russ’s lead we could be threatened with unity so we must tread carefully. Maybe that is the sarcasm that reader Larry noticed in his comments yesterday. Here is the result of the crazy prayer idea.

So basically after I went to God, prayed and became revitalized, it was clear what I must do. First, stop letting the media scare me into thinking we do not matter. Second, prepare to vote, keeping in mind, there are other races other than President (Senate, House, State legislatures, etc) and to seek out good candidates to support that will represent what I believe it right. Third, is to pray for whatever candidate wins. Pray that God would work on their heart and that they would seek His counsel. And fourth, continue to voice our opinions to our elected representatives.

Very well said. Thanks. Maybe I will try your wild scheme. Next up is Bridgette.

Thank you for a very timely piece. I’m an Independent (which is almost as evil as being a democrat in some evangelical microcosms.)

I really wonder about the advice some of these “leaders” are giving. I realize it is more of the “conservative” leaders than the “evangelical” leaders that are advocating the next position; however, I’ve even heard folks say that if it comes down to Mrs. Clinton or Mr. McCain that they would go for Mrs. Clinton in hopes that she will enable the republicans to win next time with a “real” conservative.

That is solid logic. I think I will suggest to youngest son that he marry a bad wife so he can realize his mistake and get a good wife the next time.

I wonder if the “leaders” are really spending time in prayer? It really does sound like flesh is speaking.

Maybe I can forward them to Russ and he can explain that whole “pray and read scripture thing” to them. Bridgette, unfortunately, was not done.

One small nit — Five for Fighting is a solo act with a rather ambiguous name.

DOH! That explains why there is only one dude in the video. Thanks for helping me to shorten my stupid span. There is no nit too small to pick when I am factually wrong.

Reader John had this to say.  

I would like to suggest that we really are not just faced with a choice of A or B. (Be that McCain/Clinton or something else.) I realize that it will be impractical, but if enough people would not be resigned to “I don’t like either of the choices, therefore I will simply not vote.” then we might be able to effect real change. I am very disheartened that 33% is considered good voter turnout. How much could be done if that other 66% would actually come out and express their opinion? We are not faced with just the donkey and elephant for choice.

“If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.”
Geddy Lee

My heart agrees with John and I wish that independents were a viable option. But that groundwork must be prepared now for future elections. This time around we must play the hand that is dealt to us by the system. Plus I love anyone who finishes with a quote from Geddy Lee, the vocalist from the rock group Rush. Nice.

Next up is the cryptically named P4F.

FYI.

Thank you for clearing my mind of all the clutter of the media. I was feeling like many others that the only solution was to not vote but in my heart felt that was not a good alternative. This reminded me that if I vote in a manner of prayer that God will lead me and lay on my heart the best of the candidates and His purposes will be fulfilled. We need to be more open to stepping out into faith and the arms of Jesus. After all isn’t this the way Jesus lived? He stayed open and faithful to the purpose of God.

Thanks so much for a well written answer to the question of many!

You are welcome. And thank you for my new ministry. Media Clutter Clearance Consultant. That will be a full-time job!

And the last word (almost) will go to faithful reader Kathleen.

I begin by saying how much I value my privilege (and related duty) to make my wishes known at the polls. I will vote even if I’m not enchanted with the candidate I select (I hate to admit it, but I voted for Ross Perot back when …). Anyway, last I heard, God is in control and will achieve His purposes with either a noble or an ignoble outcome. It’s best I leave that to Him while I work my assignment to be light and salt.

“Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth…. Nevertheless, God’s solid foundation stands firm, sealed with this inscription: “The Lord knows those who are His … In a large house there are articles not only of gold and silver, but also of wood and clay; some are for noble purposes and some for ignoble. If a man cleanses himself from the latter, he will be an instrument for noble purposes, made holy, useful to the Master and prepared to do any good work. (2 Tim 2:15, 19-21)

God’s Word is a great place to end. Thanks for your input.

Last week I posed this question:

Should Christians sit this election out?

You responded. Today we take a look at some of those responses with comments from your Bad Christian Laureate. First some thoughts from those who disagree with me.

That is the thought process that caused millions to cast votes for Ross Perot and send Bill Clinton to the White House. Did that message result in better candidates? I would argue that the best way for Christians to make a statement is to stay together as a voting block. Nothing would please those opposed to the moral issues that concern evangelicals more than seeing that group’s influence splintered. Please think carefully about the consequences.

Finally, I end with this comment from another reader.

Keep up the good work. We’ve got a lot in common (early fifties, Ohio native, Reds fan, three sons, sports fan, sarcastic, etc.)

Sarcastic? Moi? Anyone else see that?

More of your comments tomorrow. Keep’em coming.

A news story this week from Christianity Today amused me. The headline was provocative.

Super Tuesday Results Show Split Between Evangelicals and Their Spokesmen

I am an amateur evangelical anthropologist. Like Jane Goodall I go into their habitats and study their behaviors. Since I am one of the species it is easy to assimilate into their culture. My first journal, When Bad Christians Happen to Good People, was a result of my time spent with these fascinating creatures. From my observations a couple of immediate questions came to mind as I read the headline in Christianity Today.

1. When did we get spokesmen? Unlike dentists on TV commercials I can’t get four out of five evangelicals to agree on anything.
2. Have these reporters not previously observed that evangelicals are an unruly lot and that our primary conflict resolution strategy is to split?

(Note to the humor impaired: The comments above were good-natured jesting. Please back away from the send button)

The rest of the story was a bit perplexing and sad. Dr.James Dobson is an influential and respected leader in evangelical circles. I have known about his passion for family for over thirty years. Courtesy of middle son Scott I read The Strong Willed Child about 37 times.

And then Scott turned three.

I appreciate what Dobson has done through his unwavering support of family and marriage. But I was surprised by Dr. Dobson’s statement this week.

“Should Sen. (John) McCain capture the nomination as many assume, I believe this general election will offer the worst choices for President in my lifetime,” Dobson said in a message to his e-mail subscribers the morning of Super Tuesday. “I certainly can’t vote for Hillary Clinton or Barack Obama based on their virulently anti-family policy positions. If these are the nominees in November, I simply will not cast a ballot for President for the first time in my life.”

I thought about whether I could sit out an election. The very first thing that popped into my mind was my late father. I thought of him leaving for the Pacific theater as a terrified eighteen year old during World War II. I thought about how much he believed that voting was one sacred result of the sacrifices of men and women for over two hundred years. I must gracefully disagree with Dr.Dobson. I cannot forfeit that privilege no matter how I might feel about the slate of candidates presented to me.

Regular readers of these humble ramblings know that I rarely, rarely use all caps in any of my writing. But I will make an exception for this thought.

I WILL NEVER SIT OUT AN ELECTION IN WHICH I AM PHYSICALLY ABLE TO VOTE!

If there are two choices I assume that one choice has to be better than the other. I will prayerfully decide which choice comes closer to my values and beliefs. And I will vote for that candidate even if he or she represents only a part of what I value. Something, in this case, is far better than nothing. I wish I could pick my candidate, pack up his briefcase with my agenda along with a hearty lunch and then send him to Washington. But that is not reality.

I pray that you will take this responsibility seriously enough to dig past the pundits and the partisan blather. Freedom is like health. You don’t appreciate either one until they are gone.

H.L.Mencen once said, “We must be willing to pay a price for freedom, for no price that is ever asked for it is half the cost of doing without it.”

Think about that.

And think about the lyrics of the song Freedom Never Cries by an artist called Five For Fighting. The lyrics note how we tend to ignore the quiet dignity of freedom and take it for granted.

I never loved the soldier until there was a war
Or thought about tomorrow
’til my baby hit the floor
I Only talk to God when somebody’s about to die
I Never cherished Freedom

Freedom never cries…

Thank God today for the blessing of freedom. I plan to exercise one of my precious freedoms this November when I vote. I also thank God today for another kind of freedom.

It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery.  (Galatians 5,  NASB)

Cherish both freedoms. And take neither for granted.