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  • The Last Word…

    I remember hearing the late entertainer Merv Griffin joke that he was going to put these words on his tombstone.

    “I will not be right back after this message”

    I happened upon a story recently about humorous tombstone messages and I found out that Merv kept his word.

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    There have been some brave souls over the years when it came to tombstone epitaphs. Like this apparently long suffering husband who paid less than his respects to his departed bride.

    John Dryden (1631-1700):

    Here lies my wife: here let her lie!
    Now she’s at rest, and so am I.

    On Margaret Daniels’ grave at Hollywood Cemetery in Richmond, Virginia: She always said her feet were killing her but nobody believed her.

    On the grave of Ezekial Aikle in East Dalhousie Cemetery, Nova Scotia:

    Here lies
    Ezekial Aikle
    Age 102
    The Good
    Die Young

    And he had so much to live for!

    From a cemetery in Ruidoso, New Mexico:

    Here lies
    Johnny Yeast
    Pardon me
    For not rising.

    I started wondering what I would like to put on a grave stone as my final message. Should I be funny?

    Hope he was just kidding about the Bad Christian stuff.

    But after a little serious thought I think this would be my final words.

    Here lies Dave Burchett.

    He was so amazed by the grace of God that he couldn’t stay quiet about it.

  • Godly or Gaudy?


    Warning: The following post may contain humor. This blog was produced in a program where irony and satire are processed. May contain sarcasm fragments. If you have negative reactions to sarcasm or satire please avoid this product. Thank you.

     

    If you read When Bad Christians Happen to Good People  you know that I am not a fan of “Jesus Junk”. That is a term for the often tacky, sometimes offensive and generally puzzling ways that we try to merge Christianity and our culture. The products range from the Jesus bobble head dolls to Christian breath mints. I had never considered bad breath to be a spiritual battle but I am still learning in my journey.

     

    People now send me links to this stuff just to annoy me. I found out about a new Talking Jesus action figure. Herobuilders.com of Connecticut, USA, added a new hero to their ranks of action dolls – “the ONLY real hero,” in fact. Standing fully 12″ tall, the Jesus Christ Action Figure comes with an optional microchip.  When Jesus speaks he sounds like the late John Facinda of NFL Films narrating the 10 Commandments. You almost expect  Jesus to follow “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house” with some stirring music and “across the frozen tundra the mighty warriors rumbled.”  

     

    Apparently the talking Jesus doll ministry is exploding. Amazon features a whole range of talking Jesus figures. If you hate your Jesus doll quoting the wrong Bible you can order the Timecapsule Toys version that goes old school with King James only. The product features are a bit confusing at the Amazon.com site.

     

        * Talking Action Figure has a 4 min. audio chip allowing it to speak 25 different phrases in the First Ladies own Voice!  (Uhhhhhh….maybe we should proofread after the cutting and pasting for each action figure)

        * Figures are limited in production and include an individually numbered certificate of authenticity. (
    How reassuring to know that your Jesus is authentic)

        * Figures also include a biographical pamphlet that includes a comprehensive timeline specific to each figure. (
    Also known by such names as the Gospels and New Testament)

        * Figures come dressed in period correct clothing that is period correct and been hand tailored to suit the figure. (I would not want period correct clothing that was not period correct or redundancies that weren’t redundant)

        * 8 and up. (Apparently that is the age of accountability to own this doll)

    The reader’s reviews offered this gem.

    My 10 year old asked for this for Christmas. He listens to the scriptures often. He loves it!!!!! The voice of Jesus is a little too loud.

    Verily. Especially when the Jesus doll doth saith things like this.

     

    And, behold, one came and said unto him, Good Master, what good thing shall I do, that I may have eternal life? And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments. He saith unto him, Which? Jesus said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. The young man saith unto him, All these things have I kept from my youth up: what lack I yet? Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me. But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful: for he had great possessions. (Matthew 19, KJV)

    How many times have we wished Jesus would lower the volume on some of those hard things He asks us to do? Good observation from that reviewer.

    Having the neighbors over for breakfast and don’t know how to witness? How about ordering the Jesus Pan and put the imprint of the Lord right on their pancakes.

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    That’s right. Heavenly hotcakes to jump start your evangelism! The ad proclaims that the Jesus Pan was featured on The Tonight Show! I have a sneaking suspicion that Mr.Leno was making a few jokes about imprinting Jesus on your grilled cheese sandwich instead of marveling at the eternal impact. By the way, you get two pans when you order now! If your friends refuse to listen you can use the second Jesus Pan to whop’em up the side of the head. Imagine when they go to the emergency room with the image of Jesus on their forehead. That will get the ER buzzing and you can keep the ministry going.                                                

    The list of Jesus Junk is astounding and embarrassing. You can buy Jesus Adhesive Bandages (sticking closer than a brother) and Jesus pencil toppers.(He erases your sins).

    While this whole thing is embarrassing to me as a follower of Christ there is also a strange comfort in all of this. Perhaps one of our strongest apologetic arguments is that Christianity is flourishing around the world despite Christians. Clearly there is something far more powerful than our often sorry attempts to represent Jesus to the world. I wrote a chapter called “Godly or Gaudy?” in When Bad Christians Happen to Good People. Here is an excerpt from that chapter. 

     

    Last night I had a dream.  I went shopping with Jesus.  We were browsing through a Christian book superstore.  He stopped at the What Would Jesus Do? bracelet display.  I found out what He would do.  He moved on.  Jesus picked up the Testamints breath mints and examined them.  Next He saw the Jesus and His dog statue portraying a young Jesus with a German shepherd.  Did I see Him chuckle?  The Jesus Saves air freshener for cars caught His attention.  He looked around at the rows of products and aisles of books, row after row of books about Jesus and how to know Him and be like Him and so on and so on.  “Why do you make faith so complicated?”  He asked quietly.  “I didn’t say figure Me out.  I said follow Me.”  That woke me up.

  • Spectacular Ceremony Sends Horrible Message

    The opening ceremonies of the Beijing Olympics were truly spectacular. The creative genius of the program and disciplined performers left me awestruck. But a news story the next day left me a little angry. The beautiful little girl singing during the telecast was actually lip syncing. Was it because she was too nervous or too young to perform live in such a pressure packed environment? Nope. It was because the actual voice belonged to a singer dubbed not “cute” enough to represent the country. The Los Angeles Times reported the story.

    The child in question was 9-year-old Lin Miaoke, who was seen belting out “Ode to the Motherland” as the Chinese flag entered the National Stadium. She became an instant celebrity and was quickly christened a “smiling angel.” The image of her in a pretty red dress appeared around the world. But it wasn’t Miaoke who was singing. Chen Qigang, the ceremony’s music director, told state broadcaster Beijing Radio that the voice heard around the world belonged to 7-year-old Yang Peiyi.

    Peiyi had the voice and was supposed to perform, but was yanked at the last minute because her looks were deemed not suitable by a senior Communist Party official, Chen said. “It was for the national interest,” Chen told Beijing Radio. “The child on camera should be flawless in image, internal feelings and expression.”

    That just makes me ill. Especially when you see the face of the little girl who was rejected.

    Peiyi Yang Peiyi (Courtesy of Los Angeles Times)

    She is beautiful. But because she has buck teeth and a chubby face they brought in another little girl to lip sync the song. What a horrible message this action sends to young girls and boys around the world. But as followers of Jesus we must be so careful to not send a similar message.

    I know pastors who will not allow overweight or unattractive people to be a part of the praise team or to serve as greeters. Here is what I want to see when I watch a praise team. Faces reflecting worship of Jesus. If I want to see pretty faces I will go to an up-scale boutique. When I am greeted at the door I want to sense the warmth of fellowship and love of Christ. I don’t care how straight their teeth are or how perfect the attire. James wrote about this dangerous path that Christians can go down.

    My dear brothers and sisters, how can you claim to have faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ if you favor some people over others?

    For example, suppose someone comes into your meeting dressed in fancy clothes and expensive jewelry, and another comes in who is poor and dressed in dirty clothes. If you give special attention and a good seat to the rich person, but you say to the poor one, “You can stand over there, or else sit on the floor”—well, doesn’t this discrimination show that your judgments are guided by evil motives? Listen to me, dear brothers and sisters. Hasn’t God chosen the poor in this world to be rich in faith? Aren’t they the ones who will inherit the Kingdom he promised to those who love him? But you dishonor the poor! Isn’t it the rich who oppress you and drag you into court? Aren’t they the ones who slander Jesus Christ, whose noble name you bear?

    Yes indeed, it is good when you obey the royal law as found in the Scriptures: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you favor some people over others, you are committing a sin. You are guilty of breaking the law. For the person who keeps all of the laws except one is as guilty as a person who has broken all of God’s laws.  (James 2, NLT)

    Seriously James…can you tell us how you feel? I have to be so careful about being drawn only to those like me (scary thought) instead of embracing whoever Gods places on my path. Some of the most beautiful believers I know have the spiritual parallel to buck teeth and chubby faces. They are beautiful because of Christ and who they are becoming in Him. 

    I reread the quote from the official above with sadness.

    “The child on camera should be flawless in image, internal feelings and expression.”

    We live in a world full of people who know they are not flawless in image, internal feelings and expression. They know just the opposite. They are deeply flawed in image, internal feelings and expression. That is the beauty of the Gospel of Jesus. Whether you can sing or not sing. Whether you have perfect teeth or buck teeth. Whether you have lived a pretty good life or horrible life. Jesus is ready to forgive your past and rewrite your very nature. By simply putting your trust in Christ you can become a new person. Flawless in the eyes of God. No need to fake it or wonder if you are good enough or pretty enough. The message you will hear from God is amazing. You are enough because of my Son. You are a saint and you are precious to Me.

    That is the message I live to communicate. The grace of the precious Gospel of Jesus is for everyone. And that is truly spectacular.

     

  • What Trust Looks Like

    Today I took a walk through Boston. The Boston Common is a beautiful and peaceful oasis to walk and pray. On my way back to the hotel I noticed a man on a motorized scooter. He was severely physically challenged. It appeared he was dealing with advanced Cerebral Palsy. The man was unable to communicate beyond noises and grunts. I have learned a lot about dealing with physically challenged people from my wife’s years of serving special needs kids. She has taught me to just treat them like anyone else. No need to look with pity or speak louder.

    The man was selling water and soft drinks from his scooter. He had a little cooler and a money box with a slot. There was a sign that listed the prices. Another sign noted a box to make change because he was unable to execute even that simple task. So I went up to the man, smiled at him, told him I wanted a water and put money in the box. He grunted a response as I took my water and walked away.

    I have to tell you that I walked away inspired and uplifted. Inspired by a man who refuses to let major challenges keep him from doing something for himself. I thought about how this man was demonstrating total trust every time he ventures out. He must trust those who do business with him to leave the correct amount and to make change. He has no choice but to trust others. I would struggle with having to trust others and not being able to control the situation at all. But he has made a choice to take a chance to trust others with himself.

    That is what God asks me to do. He wants me to completely trust Him with all of me. A sincere comment from one of the recent blogs came to mind. The writer said that “the primary focus of our Christianity is pleasing God”. That seems to make sense and that is what I lived for years. But I am learning through my study from the book TrueFaced that my primary focus should be trusting God, not pleasing Him. I encourage you to watch a bit of that message. What can I do to please God? Scripture tells me that faith pleases God. In Hebrews we read that without faith it is impossible to please God. But I would rather do stuff to try and earn His favor. If I take that path I can maintain a little control. When I choose to simply trust God I get scared. I want to hold back a little (or a large) percentage. We have been taught a theology that God rewards us based on our deeds. Read carefully. I am not saying that we should do nothing. I am saying that my deeds flow out of trusting God, allowing Him to love me even in my “as is” condition. My deeds flow out of worshiping Jesus for paying the price to make me righteous before a Holy God. My deeds flow out of peace as the Holy Spirit fills my heart with comfort. I spent three decades trying to do good deeds to access what I already had the first day I trusted Christ. I spent years trying to earn gifts that were already given and simply need to be unwrapped.

    Was this man an angel in disguise today? I was blessed by his courage and trust. I want to continue to learn to put my ego, my need to hang on to control and my pride on the altar and leave it there. I want to trust Him completely. That will please Him more than anything.

     

  • We All Leave A Mark

    The last two articles have given me spiritual tired head. So today is a gently read post from the past.

    (WARNING TO THE HUMOR IMPAIRED –  The following article may offend some. If you are easily irritated or have a tendency to e-mail nasty comments to blog writers please do not continue. Thank you).

    Recently God has been sending me a consistent message. Get out of your comfort bunker. Quit flailing away in your own strength and trust Me. I happened to stumble onto a parody of a beloved poem called “Footprints in the Sand”. The original poem was written in the 1930’s. It told a beautiful story of how God carries you through the hard times. If you somehow missed the original version you can click here to read it (be warned that there are annoying surf sound effects at the site).

    But a guy named Sam Glen did a little rewrite of the beloved poem reminding all of us that just leaving a “mark” is not good enough.

    One night I had a wondrous dream.
    One set of footprints there was seen,
    the footprints of my precious Lord,
    but mine were not along the shore.

    But then some stranger prints appeared
    and I asked the Lord, “What have we here?
    Those prints are large and round and neat,
    but, Lord, they are too large for feet.”

    “My child,” he said in sober tones,
    “For miles I carried you alone.
    I challenged you to walk in faith,
    but you refused and made me wait.”

    “You disobeyed, you would not grow.
    The walk of faith you would not know.
    So I got tired, I got fed up,
    and there I dropped you on your butt.”

    “Because in life there comes a time
    when one must fight and one must climb,
    when one must rise and take a stand
    or leave their butt prints in the sand.”

    That is a real kick in the old sand imprinter. God has called me to action. Jesus said these words to me and every follower that claims His name.

    “Go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”  (Matthew 28 – NLT)

    It is hard to follow that commandment to go and still leave a butt print in the sand. So it is time to rise up, rake over my imprint in the sand trap of fear and doubt, an simply go. I want to leave a mark for Jesus. But I want that mark to be the right type of mark that comes from reporting for duty every day and trusting Him for the results. So get up off your mark, get set, go!

  • Can We Talk? Apparently Not.

    Jerry Seinfeld has a bit about trying to select an appropriate greeting card.

    They have the greeting cards with the couples on the front. They photograph them. These hazy focus people. They’re always having picnics. There’s always a tree, a pond… who are these people? I don’t know them. I don’t want them on my card either. What am I going to write inside there anyway? “Here’s another couple having a better relationship than us.”

    Who are these people? That question has been going through my mind as I read the angry comments about the airplane incident with the Osteens. I have been deeply disappointed by the comments posted on my site. I know that most of them come from angry spiritual hall monitors that happened to stumble on this site. Clearly many of them think that Christians should never question another person in the faith no matter what they do. Clearly many of them think any mention of a uncomfortable situation, no matter how civil in tone, is judgmental and wrong. Clearly many of them did not respond to the points that I actually made in my post. I think the responses demonstrate the problem we have in the American church. We have lost the ability to discuss truth with grace. Feel free to read my article about Victoria Osteen. At no point did I criticize the Osteen’s ministry. I never said that flying first class was a sin. (That would have made me a sinner hundreds of more times than I have already tallied) I never said that Mrs.Osteen was entirely at fault. I simply asked this question. What is our accountability as followers of Christ (especially those with influence) when an incident occurs that could tarnish the name of Christ and His church? That was my question. That question was directed at the Osteens, at my readers and at myself.

    Instead I got comments completely unrelated to that question. For example…

    This is a prime example of someone wanting free money. Hemerhoids? Lost my faith? Mental anguish? Over a little spat about a spill. Come on, It’s one more person wanting to ger free money and not work.

    That may be the case but it was not the point. Don’t think I got into the hemorrhoid issue at all. If I had I would have used the joke about her troubles being behind her now. And by the way, take a moment to run your diatribes through a spell check. Proof reading would be good too. It is hard to take seriously someone who talks about a “fowl” spirit unless you are writing about a rooster’s attitude.

    Why not check out the past of the flight attendant? Has she had mental problems or money problems before?

    Sighhhhhhhh. Let he who is without sin run the first Google check.

    Never did he (Jesus) apologize to the people who crusifed him. (SIC) He did not apologize for who he was. 

    That seems a bit of a stretch to compare what Christ endured on the cross to a spill in first class. Are you kidding me?

    So I say, I see another human being Chistian woman who has become a public figure being persecuted all for financial gain. Im sure she is not perfect but I also say why offer an apology if you feel you are not wrong. Should she offer an apology just because some one has accused her of something?

    No. She should offer an apology because she did something wrong. Once you get out of your seat against the directives of the flight crew you have done something wrong and that merits a response. It is a zero tolerance law. Once those actions delayed and inconvenienced others you have done something wrong. That would be the reason. And the flight attendants (not stewardesses) are there to prepare the plane safely for departure and follow all government safety directives. Although you should expect some degree of improved service in first class it is not their primary purpose on any flight to serve you immediately.

    Did ya’ll learn nothing from Kelly Siegler’s fall from grace by attacking Lakewood as loonies, nuts and screwballs? Didn’t you learn that the local Republican party chief goes to Lakewood?

    What? Where did I attack Lakewood or call anyone names? And when did the Republican party chief attending a church become an indicator of church health? 

    We at Lake wood are well educated teachers, doctors, lawyers, moms, fathers………Cults try to woo you into a certain belief; we at Lakewood believe in love, Jesus Christ and God. I’m going to do what Joel tells us to do, come to church with me and you’ll never be the same.

    That’s awesome. And not in any way related to my post.

    Ya’ll are wasting a lot of negative time bashing the Osteens. Why not do good with your words. Complement someone. Do something for others and you wouldn’t have time to screed.

    We’all didn’t even know we were screeding. I found out that screed is a noun meaning long harangue or discourse. Regular readers of the humble ramblings know I am entirely capable of a long discourse. I am not much of a screeder if you use the haranguing definition.

    True humility is not quick to expose our brothers or sisters in the Lord lest we be exposed and humilated ourselves. Naming and pointing out ministers or ministries of any kind is not, especially with a global audience, does not glorify God and certainly doesn’t impress sinners.

    I understand the point of this message to some extent. But I would suggest that it does not impress “sinners” to act like a follower of Christ should not be held accountable. Some readers told me I had no idea about airline service and what it meant to fly in first class. I guess the six million frequent flyer miles I have accrued and dozens upon dozens of first class flights don’t count. True humility would have certainly worked in this situation. The kind of humility that Paul encouraged from the church at Philippi.

    Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. (Philippians 2)

    Hard to justify demanding first class “rights” in light of that passage.

    Wow! I’m glad you people posting on this site will not be judging me when I get to Heaven. I didn’t know that once i accepted Jesus Christ as my savior that i am supposed to be perfect. You make it sound as if I can never do anything or say anything wrong. No one should hold any pastors or their wives/family members to a higher standard or idolize them for that matter.

    I am also really glad that “you people” won’t be judging me. God knows all of the junk in my life and still sees me as holy because I am justified through Christ. I am also pretty sure that I said exactly the opposite about having to be perfect. I wrote that we will make mistakes and I wrote about how we should respond in humility and grace to resolve any issues that discredit our testimony. I said there is no condemnation in Christ but there is responsibility as disciples. And you are just wrong about not holding to a higher standard for leaders of the church.

    If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task. Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. 7He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.
    (1 Timothy 3)

    Several comments led with this verse.

    Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

    I wonder about applying this as a catch-all verse to deflect accountability. Jesus was speaking to “religious” hypocrites who wanted to kill a sinner instead of saving her. He was speaking to men who conveniently ignored the law about both parties being guilty since it would seem two parties were necessary for the charge against her. And He was speaking to men trying to trick Jesus into breaking the law of Moses so they could accuse him of heresy. I think the principle applies broadly but the text does not give us biblical Teflon that causes sin not to stick. We are without condemnation from Christ but we still face the consequences of sin.

    One writer had a humbling and profound thought.

    A pastor I know was asked once how a person could spot a preacher who is a fraud. His reply was simple but spoke volumes, “If the preacher emphasizes his personality more than God’s and spends more time selling his books and trinkets than salvation, a person would have a right to be suspicious.”

    I include that not because I am saying that applies to Mr.Osteen but because it applies in some way to all of us. What is my motive for ministry? Is my recognition or other’s salvation more important to me? If I am maturing into who Christ says I already am then I will be focused on glorifying God and not worrying so much about how others perceive me.

    I am often wrong. I am often in need of forgiveness. So I always write with the knowledge that I could fail at any moment. But what I am learning is that when I am honest with my God and with others about who I am then I can truly exhibit humility and grace to my circle of influence.

     

  • Plane Speaking About The Osteen’s

    (This is an update of an earlier post)

    Yes…the spelling in the title is correct. I am going to reluctantly revisit the airplane incident with Joel and Victoria Osteen that happened in December, 2005. One of the most visited posts I have ever written was in regards to the tepid apology that Mrs.Osteen issued after the incident. I finally removed the article after it became merely a feedback repository for partisan shots. The comments became a back and forth series between those who support the Osteen’s and their ministry versus those who do not. It became a spectacular exercise in missing the point. The ministry of Joel and Victoria Osteen was never the focus of my article. I became so frustrated and dismayed with the discourse that I removed the post. This article is an attempt to stay on point.

    My argument was never about the Osteen’s ministry, mega-churches, celebrity Christians or any of the issues raised by many of those who posted feedback. My focus was on accountability for everyone in the body of Christ and our responsibility to respond with graciousness and humility. Immediately after the initial story was reported I wrote these words.

    “I pray that the Osteens will handle this in a way that demonstrates the humility and grace of Jesus. We all make mistakes. It is how we respond to them that can make a difference. Repenting and repairing by asking forgiveness is a very good way to practice damage control.”

    A couple of days later a letter was posted on the church website from Victoria Osteen.

    Regardless of how some have portrayed the situation, please know that it was truly a minor misunderstanding and did not escalate into what you saw or read in the news. Contrary to those reports it was my choice to remove myself from the situation. Nonetheless, it was a most unfortunate event and I truly regret that it happened.

    The last thing I would ever want to do is let any of you down. And I promise you that I did not act in any way that would cast a bad light on you, my family, Lakewood Church or our Lord Jesus Christ. I value the position that God has placed me in and I can assure you that I will always walk in love and integrity. While I am not perfect, I will always seek to be a peacemaker and seek the high road.

    I was disappointed in Victoria Osteen’s response. She never wrote the words “I am sorry” or “please forgive me” for this incident. I wonder if either of those phrases would have altered the course that has now resulted in an ugly trial.

    The Federal Aviation Administration fined Victoria Osteen $3,000 for interfering with a crew member. Ms. Osteen paid the fine in August to put the issue to rest, her attorney Rusty Hardin told the Houston Chronicle. She believes “very, very strongly” that she did nothing wrong, Mr. Hardin said.

    But the reality is that something happened. There was a disagreement that was strong enough for the family to leave the plane and delay the flight for over two hours. No matter how minor or major the misunderstanding that event inconvenienced a lot of people. So it seemed to me that some words of contrition to the passengers would have been helpful. When you are a visible and vocal representative of Jesus, whether it’s at a megachurch or a mini mart, you are representing Jesus everyday and every moment. I can guarantee you that if I display unseemly behavior the first thing that will pop into the minds of those who know me will be  “I wonder if that is in his wonderful little Christian books?”. One of my biggest fears in writing books (and these daily ramblings) was that I have put myself on the line for the rest of my life. My actions will be evaluated in light of what I have written and said. Fair? Probably not. But it is a fact. And I accept that with humility and deep soberness.

    But the reality is that simply announcing  “I am a Christian” does exactly the same thing. Your failures likely won’t make the news but they may do a lot of damage. Here is the lesson for all of us. When we inevitably fail we need to remember the five R’s of reconciliation.

    1. Review – evaluate your actions prayerfully in the light of the Holy Spirit
    2. Repent – trust God to resolve your sin by depending on His Spirit
    3. Repair – seek out those who have been affected and ask forgiveness
    4. Reject Excuses – don’t negate the power of forgiveness by saying something like I am sorry but I was having a bad day. Just say I am sorry or please forgive me. Period.
    5. Rejoice – in a gracious God who forgives us time after time after time.

    Can we do anything less if we truly stop and consider His grace to us? Because of Christ I am redeemed and their is no condemnation for me from God. But I still face the consequences of my actions. I squirm a bit when I write articles like this. I look in the mirror and I see a deeply flawed man. I also hesitant because I have been hurt by mean spirited people who would not recognize grace if it bit them on their pew coverers. And I can count on someone writing a response to me with a lot of ALL CAPS and they will use the verse from Matthew to let me know I am a judgmental jerk.

    “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

    I think we have so broadly applied this teaching that we have ceased to hold ourselves, and others, accountable in how all of us represent Christ. Remember that Jesus was addressing the religious people who talked about godliness but acted entirely differently. I am to evaluate myself by the standards of God’s Word, and yes, the standard should be higher for me because I have publicly identified myself as a follower of Christ. I want others to hold me accountable. I would prefer they do that with grace. In fact, I was confronted a couple of years ago by a person who informed me that my actions did not match my public testimony. I was deeply saddened by my actions but I was also grateful. I was able to repent and ask forgiveness of that person and others. That is the standard we set for ourselves as Christians. I know. I am a small fish and it was not a news story. But I had claimed one thing and portrayed another. I had damaged the precious name of Jesus. This courageous person called me on my response and because of grace the situation was completely resolved. I cannot judge the motives or heart of Mrs. Osteen or anyone else. I do believe that she could have diffused this situation with a different response. But my focus is squarly on myself and how I respond when I face frustrations in life.  I would hope that is the focus of Christians reading this article.

    I pray that I will  offer a loving and grace filled response. But the reality is that I may need to humble myself and seek forgiveness. Both glorify the name of Jesus. Please let that be the takeaway from this writer.